I took a class in college called "Sociology and Psychology of Sport" and will never forget a line my professor once told us. He said "Sports are supposed to make you feel." It took a few years to let that sink in and for me to truly grasp what he meant by this, or at least, to see it first hand.
Sports, especially football for our family, give us so many emotions. The anticipation of the season. The excitement of winning ball games. The distress of a loss. The sadness of teammates grieving. The support of a community. The devastation of injuries. The unity to come together in times of need. The way sports change people. And the love for the game.
True fans appreciate the sport(s) in its entirety. Whether it's watching college ball or NFL all weekend long, trying to keep a dry eye during "College Game Day" or cheering passionately in the stands every Friday night, we're ready for everything football offers to us.
Plain and simple, football gives me all the feels. And I'm here for it, y'all.
Dear High School Athlete,
I’m sure, by now, you realize what it takes to be an athlete. You’ve spent countless hours in the weight room, on the field (or court), and in the classroom. You have formed relationships with your teammates and coaches. You realize that you have good days and bad days and still continue to push through. But one thing you may not fully realize is the impact and role that you play to the little ones looking up to you.
Think back. Not too long ago, you were there, in their shoes, looking up to the “big guys.” You are their inspiration. They want to grow up to be big like you and they want to grow up to be strong like you. They light up when they see you. They talk to their friends about you. They show up to your games and support you. Whether it is the coaches’ kids, or the ones who show up to your game days. They may get mixed in the crowd, but please remember, little eyes are always watching, admiring, and dreaming to one day be just like you.
So, as you enter this season, be wise with your actions. Be careful with your words. Be a good teammate. Encourage one another. Accept your responsibilities. Acknowledge your mistakes. Be a leader. Respect one another. Be humble. Be gracious. Be the person you once admired.
As someone who has seen it first hand in my home, thank you for being a positive role model for my children. We appreciate you and we love watching you become the athlete that you worked so hard to be. Wishing each of you an exciting, healthy, and rewarding season!
Forever your fan,
The Coach’s Wife
As if football season ever truly ends, we are officially entering the meat and potatoes of this football season. And while it often seems like seasons come and go, I find myself even more excited than the last. While we tackle this season head on, here are a few things I want you to know that I need from you.
ONE. I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND MY STRUGGLES.
While I open my arms and my heart to this coaching ministry, there will be times when I get frustrated. There will be things you miss out on because of late night practices and weekend events. There will be nights when I have cooked a big dinner you said you would be home in time for. There will be times when it feels like the only time we see each other is as we crawl into bed at night. And sometimes I will struggle with these things. But along with my struggles is my appreciation for the passion that you have in helping to mold young men. The sacrifices we make as a family are for a bigger purpose. I am completely on board. I just need you to understand my struggles.
TWO. I NEED YOU TO EMBRACE THE CRAZY.
Could there ever be a better term to describe football season than “crazy”? I can promise you the house will be messy (maybe even guarantee that), but it will be cleaned in due time. The kids might eat fast food here and there, but they will be fed. The errands we will run and events we will attend may seem endless, but there will down time eventually. The days will come and go quickly, but we will be making memories. I need you to embrace the crazy.
THREE. I NEED YOU TO SHOW US YOUR LOVE.
While this may seem obvious, it feels so important to say. Having two young children who know Dad is always at the field, showing us your love by the little things makes the season that much more special. I wholeheartedly believe that showing your love during football season is different than the “off season,” as time is so limited. As a coach’s wife, I have quickly learned that quality of time over quantity of time is more desired. I think it is easy to sometimes get caught up in realizing how little time we have as a family during the fall, but the important part is how we spend that time that we do have together. Show us your love by being all in. Being one hundred percent present in our time together. We vow to do the same. I just need you to show us your love.
FOUR. I NEED YOU TO GIVE THEM YOUR ALL.
You were destined for this life and this is your purpose. And while I know you may feel guilty for missing one of the kid’s events or games, I truly believe, and hope that you know, that God gave you this role to use as a platform. You have the opportunity to help young men, not just win ball games, but to help guide them as they move onto their next chapter in life. They need your one hundred percent. They need your support, guidance, encouragement, and tough love. They need to see what a great husband and father looks like. They need you as a role model. When times get tough, I need you to remember your purpose. I need you to give them your all.
FIVE. I NEED YOU TO KNOW WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER.
We are a team, but I am also your biggest cheerleader. My support of your coaching will only continue to grow as the seasons pass. There will be times that you may not fully understand my struggles. There will be times when the crazy feels too overwhelming. There will be times when you may not show us your love as well as I’d hoped, and vice versa. There will be times when you may feel like you aren’t giving your all. But the beauty of this is that good teammates don’t ever give up on each other. We are going to have low days, but I believe God puts us through those lows so we can truly appreciate the highs. We will continue to grow as individuals, as parents, and as a married couple because this coaching life is truly where we belong. I need you to know we are in this together.
The season brings excitement. And while football plays a central role in this family, our marriage will always be the focal point. And for this reason, coach, I am communicating to you what I need. Too often, we hold back from expressing what we need from each other and it can end up creating a number of issues in our marriages. To my coaches’ wives, I encourage you to express what you need from your husband this season and invite him to do the same. To my other wives, I also encourage you to have this conversation with your husband, whether you’re entering a busy time in your life, or you just haven’t communicated a topic like this in some time.
The seasons will continue to roll along and my needs from you may change. But for now, this is what I need this season. And this season is my favorite!
Your wife & teammate
It happened to be just a random, drab Thursday morning. Thursday, March 16th to be exact. I was dreading my hour long drive to class, scrolling through Instagram and Twitter. I had been seeing the posts Joanna Gaines put up on her social media about all the awesome vendors coming to Waco for the Spring At The Silos event that upcoming weekend, only dreaming how wonderful it would be to get to go to Waco and attend this awesome event. But that drab Thursday morning quickly turned around. Let me preface by saying I do not tweet often. However, as I was scrolling, I felt the desire to tweet "What I would give to go to the Spring at the Silos event this weekend!! @joannagaines @chippergaines." I quickly, within a few minutes, get a notification on my phone back...
Holy. Freaking. Smokes. Was this real life? I thought, absolutely not. This cannot be happening. I clicked on the Twitter account of @AssistingChip and realized that this really was his assistant's account and realized she had tweeted me right away, asking me to follow her so she could send me a direct message. SAY NO MORE! Instantly followed her and she sent me a message telling me that they would love to fly me out to Waco for the weekend.... AND that we would leave the next day!! WHAT. THE. WHAT.
My husband and I watch Fixer Upper religiously. We have seen every single episode and are anxiously awaiting season 5!! However, this was all happening during season 4. Like, we had literally just watched a new episode two days prior to this happening. I knew that he would absolutely kill me if I chose not to bring him to Waco. Plus, I knew we really needed this getaway. One thing that I thought was absolutely insane, and quite possibly the craziest part of this story is that the night before this happened, my husband and I were lying in bed talking. We were discussing how we should be more spontaneous in our marriage. I kid you not, the word spontaneous came up multiple times in that conversation. LOOK ABOVE TO CHIP'S TWEET. "Just how spontaneous are you?" If that is not God working through him to us, I cannot tell you what is.
So sure enough, we get sitters taken care of for the kids for the weekend and we agree to go (I mean, twist my arm, right?!) JAKE AND I DID NOT HAVE TO SPEND A DIME ON THIS TRIP. Not only did Chip's assistant book our flights to Dallas, she also booked us a rental car from Dallas to Waco. Later that night I recall texting Beth, chip's assistant, and asking what hotel we would be staying in because I wanted to be able to tell my parents, in case of an emergency with the kids. Beth's response: "You're actually going to be staying in a home that Chip and Joanna renovated"...... (Insert pulse check to ensure my heart is still beating). And sure enough, Jake and I stayed in the most gorgeous home in an adorable neighborhood in Waco, Texas. We arrived later Friday evening, walked in the door and immediately fell in love with this home. It was just as gorgeous as all of the homes on Fixer Upper and had the most perfect decor. We walked into the kitchen and could not believe our eyes.
Awaiting us was an autographed Magnolia Journal (which I will now and forever collect), and all of these goodies. They were kind enough to give us two $250 gift cards, one to Magnolia and the Visa as well. NO WORDS AT THIS POINT. Literally not a single one. The kindness and generosity of these in two individuals to a regular couple from Ohio, whom they have never met speaks volumes of them. I still felt like I was living in a dream. In fact, I think we said this out loud multiple times throughout the weekend. After we circled the house about a trillion times, we headed to bed because we knew the next day was going to be even more amazing.
We spent the morning waiting in line at the bakery. We waited about 45 minutes for our goodies. WORTH EVERY MINUTE.
They even had these cards to order, which I assume was to help speed up the ordering process. We got a cinnamon roll, a cupcake, and two Common Grounds coffees. What a great start to the day.
The remainder of the afternoon was spent shopping around and seeing everything the Silos had to offer. This is such a cute little spot. We even went over to Clint Harp's shop and picked up a couple things there!
1,102 miles from our home in Ohio to Magnolia!
The vendors were ridiculously cute, especially this flower truck! Petunia by Bunches. And of course we had to get two large cups of Alabama Sweet Tea. Retail therapy at its finest!
And, of course we drove out to the Magnolia House, because, well, we could! It was so cute!!
We decided to eat lunch a couple blocks away when we found this amazing place called Fuzzy's Taco Shop. WOW. It was so delicious!! When we make it back to Waco again, we will definitely be visiting Fuzzy's again! The tacos were delicious and it sits in an adorable part of Waco. We walked down the street and walked the bridge of the Brazos River.
All of the shopping CLEARLY wore out my husband! Ps. Would you look at this gorgeous home?!
The back deck may have been my favorite with these perfect swings.
I am still taken back by this beautiful weekend and it has already been five months since we were given this trip of a lifetime. Special thanks to Beth, Chip's wonderful assistant, who made sure we we had an unbelievable trip to Waco. We cannot wait to bring our boys back here one day!
Chip and Joanna, we unfortunately did not get to thank you in person, however, if you are reading this, please know that words are all that we have to give, but THANK YOU for gifting us this incredible experience. We had such an amazing time and needed this fun little getaway! Your show, your products, and your staff (who were some of the sweetest people around) are all an amazing representation of who you are as people. It might not be next year, it might not be in five years, but we promise to pay it forward when we have the means to do so. Divine intervention may have put us in touch with this experience, but we will forever be fans of The Gaines Family. Not because of the show, not because of the fame, but because the kindness you showed to us inspires us to be better people. And to that, we will forever work towards.
Love, The Myers Family
Today is my husband's first day of football camp and I cannot help but get so excited thinking about this upcoming season. It is so easy for us to get wrapped up in the excitement of the beginning of the season, as we anxiously await the first game day. However, as a coach's wife,we know that this time of year brings much more to the table. I often see a lot of coach's wives dread this time of year. The term "football widow" is even used to describe what we go through in the fall. A "football widow" often refers to a coach's wife who must temporarily cope with the death of her relationship during football season. To be entirely honest, I can assure you that this will never be me and my reasoning is as follows. For one, when I married my husband, I knew that football was such a major part of his life (well, OUR life) as we had grown up together and football had played such a central role. Together, we have made it through roughly 12 football seasons (playing and coaching); so I knew that come July, his life gets busier, and much sweatier, as he spends countless hours in the hot sun for lifting, conditioning, camp, and two-a-days. I knew that his dedication to his team would never waiver and that coaching football was something that would always be a part of our marriage. With having two boys as well, I knew that football would likely forever be an essential part of our lives. Because of this, we plan. We know ahead of time that we typically are not home for dinner and that we have to eat on the fly. We know that it our time is limited together throughout the week, so we make the most out of our Sundays together. And we know that while times are busy, we have each other's support, one hundred percent. I never want my husband to feel that his family does not support his coaching. We are a team. That team does not split because of other commitments. And to be honest, football season draws us even closer. We stay up late talking about how practice went and which boys excelled that day. I help talk him through decisions if he needs an ear to utilize. And I help to reiterate how important his role is as a football coach and how much those boys look up to him. Are there days when we get frustrated with each other and things go downhill? Absolutely. It would be unfair to me to pretend everything is smooth sailing all of the time. There are days when he comes home grouchy from a bad practice or an unexpected loss, but instead of allowing it to dictate the remainder of the day, I talk through it with him and make sure that he knows football does not stop at the door. Every bit of his coaching life and his team are welcome in our home at any time. Not only is coach there to support these boys, but I am as well. It is my duty as a coach's wife to support him and his team. I knew what I was getting into. It is challenging, but it is also the most rewarding life there is. Seeing coach light up after a win and our boys cheering on their dad and the team is something that gives me an unexplainable amount of joy. Hearing those boys thank me for cupcakes will never get old and will only continue to assure me that this is the life we were destined for. This is our purpose. So, I will never be a "football widow" because our relationship doesn't ever die in the fall. In fact, it flourishes. Football gives us life. And what a time to be alive...
I have had this blog site going for at least six months now. I will randomly get emails saying to post to the blog or update it. I usually just scroll through them and delete. However, recently I have put more thought behind this. I have caught myself going back and forth about whether or not I wanted to begin posting. I still go back and forth about how and why I am blogging but I have narrowed my focus down to one thing. Writing things down and expressing my thoughts makes me way less anxious. I worry. A LOT. But for some reason, the writing seems to help! So I decided to give this blogging thing a whirl.
As far as what I will blog about, I haven't gotten that all figured out yet and I will likely just wing it along the way. Some days may be about my attempt at parenting and the joys and challenges it brings. Some days may be about trying to manage time better and living with mom guilt. Some days I may offer recipes and workouts that helped me lost weight, and hopefully will help me lose some more. Some days I may advocate for and support my fellow coaches' wives, because that's what we do. And some days I wont have a darn clue and it may not even make sense. But I promise that I am here to listen and help anyone who may need it. None of us are perfect, and my hope for this blog is that I can spread and encourage a little positivity and that we can embrace each other's imperfections along the way.